The Importance of connection (or how I became an extrovert)

(Note: I wrote the main points of the blog but used ChatGPT to expand into blog form. The details are factual and the blog structure and main points are mine, although the diction is AI-generated with some editing from me).

Embracing Extroversion: My Journey from Isolation to Connection

I recently had the incredible opportunity to attend the Polyglot Gathering, an event dedicated to bringing together language enthusiasts from around the world. This experience was not just about networking for me—it was a significant step in my ongoing journey toward building meaningful connections, a philosophy that has become a cornerstone of my life.

From Isolation to Connection

Connecting with people has become an essential part of my life philosophy. Reflecting on my past, I realize that my evolution into a more extroverted person was driven by a profound need to never experience the isolation I once faced. During a tumultuous period in my life, I was in a relationship with an abusive ex who, despite her abusive nature, was very social and extroverted. This facade made it even more shocking for those around us to learn about her true behavior. When I finally escaped that relationship, I was devastated to see many of our mutual friends and contacts choosing to remain with her, despite knowing the truth.

This painful experience taught me a crucial lesson: I should never allow myself to be socially isolated again. I realized that building and maintaining a wide network of connections was not just a matter of socializing but a strategic life choice to ensure my well-being and personal growth.

The Power of Networking

This journey toward becoming more extroverted wasn’t just about avoiding isolation; it was about opening up new possibilities. In Richard Wiseman’s book, The Luck Factor, he describes how certain personality traits, including extroversion, correlate with luck. Extroverts tend to be luckier because they interact with more people, thereby increasing their chances of encountering helpful opportunities. Whether it’s professional connections, business partners, or simply new information, meeting more people enhances the likelihood of positive outcomes.

Inspired by this concept, I decided to embrace a more social lifestyle. Despite being an introvert at heart, I’ve started to act more extroverted, engaging with others, and attending events like the Polyglot Gathering. This is what I now consider effective networking. Over time, the difference between my shy, younger self and the socially active person I am today is striking. People often mistake me for an extrovert, but the truth is, it’s a conscious effort driven by my desire to connect and grow.

Building a Global Network

Today, I am proud to say that I have a large network of friends and contacts around the world. These connections are invaluable, offering support, knowledge, and opportunities that I would never have access to otherwise. My journey from isolation to connection has not only enriched my life but has also reinforced my belief in the power of human relationships.

Now I have friends who I travel with, or who I see when I travel since they are in various cities spread across the globe. I have friends who are entrepreneurial like me, and we often discuss business ideas or strategies, exchanging knowledge and skills. And I have friends and acquaintances who I would hang out with just for a beer or a coffee. Different contexts but still great social connection.

By continuing to build and nurture connections, I am not only safeguarding myself against isolation but also embracing a world full of possibilities. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that our connections with others are one of the most valuable assets we can cultivate. Networking and social interactions are not just strategies for success; they are essential for a fulfilling and enriched life.